URGENT – Another BUCKET LIST post you must read NOW!
It seems everyone has a “Bucket List” these days and there are millions of Bucket List blog posts written every week, each with their own personal spin or analysis. I recently ran across one analyzing the wisdom of even having a bucket list and giving some suggestions for proper use of these valuable (or not) lists.
One point the author made was regarding the sense of “urgency” – that a bucket list somehow diminishes the sense of urgency in accomplishing things because “for most of us, the thought of our own death is far away”.
“Not to sound morbid, but for most of us, the thought of our own death is far away. Because of this, there is no sense of urgency to accomplish the things on a bucket list. So it just becomes a “someday” list of things you’ll do at some point in the future.”
Wise words written by a 30-something blogger with a long stretch of years ahead. Most likely.
But the 50-something view nearing the other side of that bucket list bridge is very different.
Why? Because there IS a sense urgency on this end of the bridge. Many 50-somethings understand that life is short and time is NOT unlimited. We DON’T have forever to cross things off that bucket list. “Someday” becomes today. (At least I hope most of us understand this.)
The sad truth from the 50-something perspective is that friends die, stuff happens, and the road of life often takes unexpected twists. Once we feel that sense of urgency, those bucket list dreams become more important.
Many of us have close friends who have reached the end. Very unexpectedly.
Last year I lost a good friend to ovarian cancer. She was 54, happy, fit, active, living her life to the fullest. Scuba diving in Hawaii. Hiking in Arizona. Traveling. Thankfully, she was really, truly living. No one sensed her end was so near.
More recently, I found out a close friend has been diagnosed with a type of cancer that is incurable and unpredictable. She may have many healthy years ahead…or she may not. Her disease is like a ticking clock.
We met for drinks a few days before Christmas and she calmly described her prognosis. The next day she sent me an email with her Bucket List containing 22 countries she wants to visit (or revisit) while she’s healthy and able. I plan to do everything I can to help her cross things off that long list.
Our “Bucket List Project” begins in Morocco in March.
We’ll start with 3 days exploring exotic Marrakech from an amazing hotel – The Riad Ghali & Spa.
After that, we plan to venture into the desert on camels and camp with the bedouins.
Then we’ll spend a few days in the coastal city of Essaouira, eating seafood, drinking wine, and watching sunsets.
We won’t conquer the whole country of Morocco in two weeks, but that’s OK. We’ll experience it, and that’s really the whole point. We’ll sip our wine slowly, make memories, and take tons of photos.
Obviously, I realize not everyone has the luxury of adding exotic travel destinations to their bucket list, especially 22 countries all over the globe like my friend. We are the incredibly fortunate ones who are blessed with airline flight benefits, flexible schedules, and few responsibilities that limit us.
But a bucket list isn’t limited to travel – it’s absolutely ANYTHING you never want to regret NOT doing, or at least attempting.
NOW is the time to start. With my friend’s medical diagnosis she feels that strong sense of urgency – and all of her friends do too.
Start working on that Bucket List! What are you waiting for? Don’t know where to start?
1. ) Make a list.
Make a list of your wildest dreams. Seeing an elephant on an African safari? Learning a new language? Trying yoga or Tai Chi?
Or maybe a hot air balloon ride?
2.) Make the time.
Life is busy, but carve out some time for yourself. Make your bucket list dreams a priority! Use up that vacation time – what are you saving it for?
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.” – Mark Twain
3.) Make a plan.
Figure out which item on your list is the simplest one to accomplish. Do it, experience it, feel it, enjoy it, savor it, let it soak in, maybe even write about it – and then cross it off. Nothing feels better than crossing something off your “To Do” list. It’s such a sense of accomplishment. (Do you ever add things you’ve already done to your To Do List just so you can cross them off? I do!)
“A dream without a plan is just a wish.” – Katherine Paterson
4.) Make it public.
You don’t need to blast it on social media (or go ahead and blast it on Facebook, if that’s your “thing”) but at least tell someone close to you – it’ll help keep you accountable. If a friend has a similar bucket list dream, work on it together. Encourage each other and make a plan together. And then get out there and do it!
“When you truly want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it” – Paulo Coelho “The Alchemist”
What are your Bucket List dreams? And what are you doing about them?
(Stay tuned for Bucket List Tales from Morocco…)
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