Expat Confessions – Things that don’t scare me and two that actually do

 

“Aren’t you ever scared?”  they ask me.

Of what?” I reply. They can’t really answer that. They just have a vague sense that my lifestyle should be scary but no specific reasons why.


I recently spent a few weeks in my hometown of Zumbrota, Minnesota and was able to connect with a lot of old friends I hadn’t seen in a while. Some of them I hadn’t seen since I made some major life changes and they had many questions – like “Aren’t you ever scared?”

Zumbrota, MN. (aka "Pleasantville")
Zumbrota, MN.
(aka “Pleasantville”)

 

My major life change – I quit my job in 2013 and left the USA for Asia with no real plan. I now live in Taiwan and travel frequently. But I’ve always traveled frequently so to me it’s normal. To others, it’s just kind of scary.

If they could define what really scares them, here’s what I imagine they might say:

Terrorism – the fear of almost everyone worldwide. Yes, it scares me but it’s also out of my control. It can happen anywhere, and it does. I’m no less safe in Taiwan than I would be in Minneapolis or Tampa or Orlando. Sad but true.

Scary people – Bad people are everywhere, but so are the really good ones. I actually was a little bit scared one time in Costa Rica. I arrived at the bus station in San Jose at night, a blonde traveling alone and standing out in a sea of dark-haired Costa Ricans. A “bad guy” approached me and tried to get me into his illegal taxi. I sensed danger and walked quickly toward the bus station crowds in a well-lit area, found a real taxi and avoided the danger. Bad guys are always there, lurking in the dark corners, but I’m aware and avoid those dark, deserted alleys.

Screwed up plans– I’ve always traveled with the philosophy that everything that happens will someday make a good travel story – as long as I avoid death or dismemberment. I kept that idea in mind when I arrived in Italy with no hotel and found myself wandering along the Italian coast all night, with no bag, no hotel, no direction … lost but not defeated. Eventually, I found my way to Turin and appreciated that luxury hotel bed even more! My loose plans were totally screwed up but somehow I survived and it became a valuable learning experience and an amusing travel tale.

Something bad might happen – Bad things do sometimes happen, but hard times tend to bring out the best in humanity.  One time in northern Thailand, I found myself stranded on a remote mountain road with a broken scooter an hour before sunset. My friend and I didn’t panic, although we could’ve had a total meltdown. We were eventually rescued by non-English speaking Thai angels and were able to experience the kindness of the locals in an unusual way – bonding over our misfortune. There’s usually a silver lining in every bad situation, and most bad situations are covered by Travel Insurance through World Nomads, which helps me relax.

Flying – I actually fear snakes more than flying! After spending over 20 years in the aviation world, I have an insider’s view on how the process of flying works and I think that insider’s knowledge helps calm any fears. I will admit to being slightly terrified a few times, like landing in Kathmandu or flying through a thunderstorm in the mountains of Costa Rica, but I survived and it makes me appreciate flying Delta Airlines just a little more!Flying Delta

Stepping outside my comfort zone – I stepped way outside my comfort zone when I left the US to teach English since I did have a total fear of public speaking. But in the words of my very wise Mother, “You’ve always liked a challenge.” She’s right and I faced that public speaking fear in order to make a living teaching. Speaking English is the only valuable asset I have so I’ve gotta use it!

Not speaking the language – I speak about 4 words of Chinese, but somehow I’ve bumbled my way through living in a Chinese-speaking country for 3 years. Sign language, a smile, and a humble attitude go a long way in communicating with the local Taiwanese people. I know I should make another attempt at learning Chinese, but…

Two things that actually DO scare me?

Snakes – I try to avoid them. Or else I just eat them.

Living life with regrets – I never want to look back and wonder “What if?

That’s why I let go of any fear of the unknown, the unexpected, the unusual…and I jumped off the cliff and faced some of my fears. That’s why I travel – regret avoidance. I don’t ever want to regret missing out on amazing experiences while I’m young (well, kind of!) and healthy.

I fear that someday it’ll be too late. That’s probably my biggest fear.

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That, and snakes.

What scares you? Have you faced that fear?

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8 thoughts on “Expat Confessions – Things that don’t scare me and two that actually do

  • July 6, 2016 at 10:26 am
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    SNAKES!! I’m right there with you on that one! I’ve always admired your fearless attitude. Fear of the unknown is real to me and something you deal with on a daily basis!!! Great article!!😄❤️

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    • July 6, 2016 at 1:18 pm
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      Sometimes the unknown is kind of exciting. You never know what may surprise you right around the corner! (Unless it’s a damn snake…)

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  • July 8, 2016 at 3:18 am
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    I know exactly what you mean! I’m most scared of the experiences I’ll miss (because, realistically, there will be a lot of them! ) but challenges? New experiences? Bring them on! Nowhere is fully safe, so we may as well go everywhere. 🙂

    I’ll actually be moving to Taiwan as well this winter. I can’t wait! I’ll have to start attempting to learn Mandarin haha… We’ll see how that goes!

    Also, snakes are adorable. At least the harmless ones are!

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    • July 8, 2016 at 3:24 am
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      Well, I should probably warn you that ALL snakes in Taiwan are poisonous! So please be careful with the “adorable” ones! Best of luck with your attempt at learning Mandarin. My brain almost exploded!

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  • July 10, 2016 at 1:14 am
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    what were you looking forward to the most upon your return to you eastern home?

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    • July 10, 2016 at 1:47 am
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      Good question! My garden, sitting on my patio sipping a glass of wine while watching the butterflies, making plans to explore Shei Pei National Park. And catching up on sleep!

      (Just to clarify – did you mean my “eastern home” as in the Far East? Or the home I returned to by flying east…back to the West? 🙂 )

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  • July 11, 2016 at 11:40 pm
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    You have a great outlook. I have just started traveling internationally after covering the entire U.S., and some of those things do scare me, but I enjoy moving beyond my comfort zone.

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    • July 12, 2016 at 12:50 am
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      In the words of one of my favorite quotes “Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone”! Enjoy your travels!

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